Rituals that Ground

“So how do you stay grounded, Keven?” I get this question a lot. Usually, I steer the ensuing conversations away from myself, suggesting that what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another. I encourage individuals to recall a time when they felt relatively grounded and suggest they begin there, unpacking their own experiences of […]

It’s a thought, but is it a brilliant one?

Two and a half hours had passed since I got into bed and the ceiling wasn’t getting any more interesting. My focus turned to the cellphone, benignly charging on my side table. Perhaps all I needed was a little distraction until sleep found me. I could catch up on the news, check my email, and […]

From benign neglect to feeling better

In an age of speed, I began to think, nothing could be more invigorating than going slow. In an age of distraction, nothing can feel more luxurious than paying attention. And in an age of constant movement, nothing is more urgent than sitting still. Pico Iyer, 2014 Over the last month, I’ve managed to do […]

Avoid the death spiral: the huge benefits of positive self-talk

We’ve all been lectured on the importance of positive self-talk. Well used, it leads us to more productive lives and a deeper sense of well-being. With all the thoughts and feelings floating around in our minds, it makes sense to notice which ones are dominant at any time. Once we’ve identified a few, we can […]

What’s your ultimate goal, perfection or excellence?

This month, our Junior School students are focussing on excellence, which sounds like a good idea until you’re standing in front of two hundred inquiring faces. Ranging in age from five to eleven, many of the students aren’t ready for presentations that are less than concrete. Last term I used the phrase “on the wrong […]

Is the best you can, the best you’ve got?

It’s back. Like some Dementor trained by the Sith, it floated into an otherwise efficacious conversation, sucking the soul out of any sense of accountability. I was shocked. After all, this was a demon from the past, long thought deceased. But there it was, emerging from the mouth of a colleague about someone whose actions […]

Never doubt you’re free to improve your life…

“Useless. Tiring. Boring.” I had asked for feedback on Chapel – not based on a single gathering, but the whole term. The grade six to eight students arrived to find colourful index cards on their seats. On one side, they were asked to write three words that captured their experience of the programme. Thankfully, this […]